Some unknown effects of being a survivor

Recently I have been subject to a fairly common problem for survivors online.

That 'discussion' during which strangers think they get to tell you what you think and what you are saying. Rather than actually reading and responding to what you're saying. A bad enough occurrence, worse is the assumption that your zero tolerance for this entitled attitude means you're incapable of having a rational discussion or accept people who disagree with you.


Two of the nastiest things you can do to anyone let alone a survivor are a) speak for another person in words other than their own if they can speak for themselves and have done so; - we fight hard to gain our voices as survivors as our abusers work so diligently to remove our voices our words our power. So imagine then if in order to 'win' some internet conversation that is what you assume a right to do so someone? b) not listening to what a person is saying. Agree or disagree as is everyone's right, but to not listen and deride that person based on your inability to listen is exactly what an abuser done. These are bad enough to do to anyone but to someone who has identified as a survivor to you? These are just outright abuse.

This is why I take a zero tolerance to these tactics being used against me or on any forum I run.