A few days ago this image meme joke showed up on the Lizzy the Lezzy lgbtq activism page. It is generally speaking a good page, though of late there have been several post which have raised a few red flags re lack of care for abuse and rape survivors.
This image is at best simply misguided and thoughtless. Originally it was simply a ghost meme, changed by lgbtq activists to indicate there were two mums not one mum and a ghost.
Not sure how to even begin pointing out the giant problems with this; - so let's begin with the obvious, the text of the original meme says "you see your mom in front of her bedroom door, terrified, she whispers "Don't go downstairs. I heard her too". Now in the context of the ghost story thats perfectly fine, in the context of it being her partner downstairs it is so far from fine it has passed fine a few towns ago and is heading into morally repugnant.
Why would you be cowering terrified of your partner? Because the abuse you, end of list.
Some of these lgbtq activist suggested as justification of this vile edited meme that she heard the partner trying to get them and the child to do chores - what the ever loving fuck? Since when has not wanting to do chores resulted in anyone cowering in terror of a person?
If you think that is bad then the other justification /I was handed literally made me gape in sheer disbelief "it's not as if lesbians even commit abuse anyway", that is such a lie it is smacking every victim of female to female abuse again.... it is telling them because their abuser wasn't male it wasn't abuse .... bullshit!!
Not only does this edited meme make abuse out to be something to laugh at, it makes it out as something to excuse away with weak excuses, survivors of abuse do this to ourselves anyway, we excuse our abuse by saying "they didn't mean it" I've heard female victims of abuse tell themselves "it can't be abuse, only men abuse", our abusers tell us "you're only scared cause I'll make your lazy ass do some work" even when we're the ones who do all of the work.
This edited meme and all of the comment that went unchallenged and undeleted simply reinforce the abusers view of the world, they reinforce that abuse is a funny, it's a laugh. And if you challenge such memes as I did on the Lizzy the Lezzy page you get abused, mocked, called humourless, I was told the only reason I felt it was an abuse situation was because I was allowing my abuse to colour my judgement and such out my humour. Apparently it's perfectly natural to be terrified of a person asking you to do chores ....
.... each and every person finding that funny would probably have at least thought about their reaction had a rape survivor queried a rape joke meme, but abuse? Abuse is a free for all and abuse survivors? "Stop making us feel uncomfortable and crawl back under your rock, stop killing our fun" to quote one commentor on the Lizzy the Lezzy page ...
At the time of writing all comments aside from the one denying lesbians can be abusers are still on the page, and that one the author removed not the admin.
At the time of writing the author of this blog has been told because the meme was edited from the original the fact the mum was 'terrified' is irrelevant .... the amount of excuse people come up with the excuse making fun of abuse is incredible, especially on a supposedly safe page.
I urge my friends who follow this page to unfollow it and state why, please do not participate in what is essentially abuse apology. This kind of meme edited or otherwise doesn't gain equality for anyone.
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